My Father Is A Former Inmate. Stop Comparing Quarantine To Prison.

Written by on April 25, 2020

Ellen DeGeneres — broadcasting from residence just a few weeks in the past for the primary episode of “The Ellen DeGeneres Present” after a three-week hiatus — advised the world that coronavirus self-isolation was “like being in jail. It’s principally as a result of I’ve been sporting the identical garments for 10 days, and everybody right here is homosexual.”

I didn’t discover the joke humorous in any respect. DeGeneres was self-isolating in her mansion in Beverly Hills — a home with sq. footage most of us can solely dream of. And inside that mansion, lit by the California solar, DeGeneres has many selections — and entry to care if she wants it — in contrast to the actual inmates who’re being affected by the COVID-19 pandemic at an alarming charge. 

And it’s not simply DeGeneres. Should you check out any social media platform, you’ll see hundreds of posts evaluating coronavirus self-quarantine to a jail sentence, as if it’s even remotely comparable.  

The quarantine-as-jail comparability cuts by way of me. It’s not as a result of quarantine isn’t deeply difficult — specifically for these with psychological sickness, with out earnings or with an abusive accomplice. It’s as a result of we merely don’t get to be that reductive.

I’ve two instant members of the family who’ve served jail sentences, one for 13 years and one for 5. There isn’t any method for me to grasp their incarceration, however I’ve felt the reverberations of their lack of freedom.

My father went into Riverfront State Jail in Camden, New Jersey, from 1994 to 1999 — throughout my early life. I used to be 10. Like a ghost, he merely vanished, and letters stored us loosely tethered. He turned summary to me at that younger age. A reminiscence. 

My former stepfather was additionally launched from jail simply final yr after 13 years.

Each served time for nonviolent crimes, a results of a system that punishes folks — relatively than rehabilitates them — for psychological well being crises and drug habit points. Each have my full compassion.

Discounting The Actuality Of The Incarcerated

Understanding their experiences led me to work for PEN America’s Jail Writing Program whereas I used to be in graduate college, and that program gave me the chance to encourage incarcerated folks to jot down poetry and tales, and to share sources with which they may study writing.

DeGeneres — and the many individuals tweeting about their so-called jail of self-isolation — are discounting the truth of the incarcerated. 

The place we have now books, tv, a cellphone and a window — many people even enterprise out for solo walks and outside time — many incarcerated folks discover themselves crammed into tiny, darkish, dank areas with out choices, with out protecting masks or gear and, for a lot of, with out medical remedy. 

When DeGeneres used her platform and privilege to joke concerning the experiences of incarcerated folks, I talked to my father.

“Dad,” I stated. “What the hell? What would you even say to that?”

My father replied: “At residence, you might be surrounded by family members, and you’ve got the liberty to precise your self bodily and mentally.” And even in quarantine, he added, “you’ll be able to select whether or not you need to lie down or sleep or eat or bathe. Everytime you need.” 

In jail, my father stated, “you might be surrounded by harmful folks, handled just like the worst scum by your jailers, and you don’t have any freedom, no rights and no selection.”

My father advised me concerning the time somebody began a battle with him. He defended himself and was punished by being put into solitary confinement for 2 weeks — with a damaged jaw. When he lastly acquired medical consideration, his jaw was wired shut, and he was thrown again into the outlet. 

“In jail,” my father stated, “you’re dwelling in a cell not match for an animal — not to mention a human being — sharing area with a stranger that doesn’t care in the event you reside or die. You reside with solely survival in your thoughts.” For incarcerated folks at this time, he stated, “they’re extraordinarily susceptible — with no entry to related details concerning the pandemic.”

My father summed it up clearly, truthfully and painfully: “Finally, at residence you continue to have selections and you’ve got entry to info.” 

Our Obligation To Communicate Responsibly

So if it isn’t clear but, life in quarantine is troublesome, sure— however it’s not the identical as life in jail. And once we use our language so flippantly — even when our intentions are to joke — we diminish the struggling of the incarcerated, a lot of whom acquired unfair jail sentences primarily based on racism or as a result of they didn’t have the cash to defend themselves.  

Whereas DeGeneres lounges in her large mansion within the hills, a telemedicine name away from any kind of medical assist or psychological well being care, a click on of a button away from ordering a protecting masks, cossetted with the luxurious of outside area, daylight, motion and meals supply, I consider the 92% of inmates in an Indiana jail who examined optimistic for COVID-19. I consider the sick inmates who received’t get examined or handled and of the inmates who will die alone in dingy cells.

In the long run, this disaster impacts all of us, particularly essentially the most at-risk populations. Many — however not all — incarcerated persons are in jail for heinous crimes, however we nonetheless have an obligation to make use of our language responsibly. We aren’t “caught” inside our properties. We’re staying safely inside our properties in order that we will flatten the curve and in order that the medical system can meet up with the numbers. 

Language issues. It’s a highly effective device for change and for advocacy, and we every — on no matter platform we have now—should reside as much as our accountability to talk with accountability and respect.

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